Dreaming too much

It is no rare sometimes to see in the T.V., news about marriages or sentimental relationships in which people make stupid things such as a man killing his wife or girlfriend, or vice versa. Sometimes I start to think about this people and ask myself why people do this to persons that supposedly they love. I selected the stories “Happy Endings” and “A very short story” because both show a theory that I think is one of the reasons for people to make this crazy things. And my theory is that people are too dreamy and this make them to begin or to stay involved in the wrong relationship. My two principal arguments to prove this are at first that they have irrational ideas on how to improve or formalize a relationship and the other is that they are too optimist with things almost impossible. I have a secondary argument and it is that they got involved in the physical attraction.

I said they have very irrational ideas on how to improve their relationship because if we see the first story that I mentioned (Happy Endings) it is very stupid that a woman thinks that if she acts like she likes sex her pair will love her more and will marry her. In the story, Mary acted like she was dying for sex every time John wanted to f **k she although when she doesn’t like it but she thought that he would come to depend on her with this. It is irrational, John is having what he want without being married, why he would get into a deeper compromise to obtain something he already has? In the case of the other story (A very short story) one of the moment when we see something very irrational to improve and make a more stable relationship is when they agree that the man would go home to get a job after the armistice. I think that it is irrational because they agreed that he would not meet anybody and would not drink. I don’t think that if he doesn’t meet anybody it will guarantee a strong relationship when they meet again. Combining the two stories we can obtain one story. Two stupid making stupid things to be happy in a relationship where there is no real love.
My other argument is the optimism of this people and how it gets them to believe in relationships that are practically impossible. I don’t know if the author of “Happy Endings” forgot to say that Mary was a drug addict but I think that this girl was smoking marijuana since she was in fifth grade. In which head fits that a guy will fall in love with a woman that have to take off herself the cloths when is going to have sex because her “man” not even wants to do it? Mary was involved in an ironic optimism that did drive her to the suicide thinking that John would rescue her and will marry with her. Yeah right, next time get pregnant from him and if you keep optimist you will have no one, no two, you will have six babies in the first shoot, an one million house and two Hummers. Looking at “A very short story” I can see this optimism with Luz and the man. He was going back home “alone”, Luz was going to Pordenone to open a hospital in which later there would be a battalion. Everyone knows the final, he had sex with other girl, and Luz had sex with the major. Now I make the question, it is not too optimism t stay away from a person that you met having sex in a hospital and wait for that person to not do the same (have an adventure) while is away? In both stories the optimism is presented in two different ways but it has one thing in common, it got them involved in the wrong relationship.
My argument about the physical attraction is very simple. In “Happy Endings” it says that Mary does not like sex but this is very hard to believe. The thing that I’m pretty sure is that this was Mary’s first man and this might develop in her a dependence on John. In “A very short story” they wanted to get married but I think that this was because they had a good sex while they were in the hospital. They were having a relationship in an uncommon place so this made it more interesting. What I see in the two stories is that they got driven by the instinct of pleasure and it causes them to think it was love, eventually looking for marriage. I had touched three points; irrational ideas, too optimism, and physical attraction. I will combine the two stories and the three arguments to restate my point of view. People do irrational plans and things, thinking in things that are impossible or without sense, being drive by the sexual pleasure and sexual adventure in a way that converts them into dreaming people that get involved in the wrong relationship.